Wednesday, 24 January 2018

It's All About Appreciating The Small Things In Life

 This year, I really decided to concentrate on being aware of my own happiness and doing more for me, as long as it doesn't affect other people of course. So I started this thread on my twitter where every day for the whole year I will write at least one good thing that has happened to me today. For me though when it comes to sitting down and writing that tweet almost every time I have actually written more than one thing which really goes to show that if you look hard enough you will find those small things. It's about learning to truly appreciate them and the more you do it I'm sure the easier it gets.

Let's be honest, it's hard to forget to see those small things or even to just take some time to stop, breathe and go and grab a coffee or a friend for a chat. In this day and age I feel it's all work work work, save for that house, save to go travelling so you can have stories to impress people with or even just mundane things like bills or a car and I think we forget that this isn't the be all. I know that I feel the pressure to be constantly working and earning money and although of course that is what I want to do, because I do want all of the things above, but people think that in order to be happy you need all those things. But happiness is not a destination. We're always thinking, but when I have this, or when this happens I'll be happy. But happiness is a condition, not a destination. We can really learn to get joy from the small things. Like every morning I get to back into bed with my choice of breakfast and spend half an hour just enjoying watching a video or scrolling through my phone or just enjoying my breakfast and that is all because I am lucky to live 10 minutes away from my work. That I am truly joyful for, especially when the mornings are so horrible with the dark and the sometimes rainy and very cold weather.

In the busy hectic lives we all seem to lead, I think we really do over look the nice things that can happen to us throughout our day. Part of the idea of the secret (more if which I'll talk about one day) is we can only receive more of what we want when we appreciate what we already have. That could be the items you already have, the people you choose to surround yourself with. It's important to remember to call or even go and see someone, a friend, a family member and see how they are or even making more time to spend with your other half. It could be giving items away that you no longer have use for, can you imagine that smile on a strangers face if they were able to have what you no longer need.
 For example, I had a bag that I bought into work with supplies for an activity I was going to carry out. A friend noticed the bag and was saying how much they admired it and so I simply asked if they wanted it. I hadn't used in forever and I only used it this one time because it was the only bag that was able to fit all the supplies. They were honestly so appreciative and couldn't stop saying thank you and checking it was ok. Now it wasn't the fact I felt all high and mighty about doing a good deed, it was simply knowing that I'd made someone happy just with a simple gesture. It no longer bought me joy because I had plenty of other bags and so a little act of kindness went a long way. Another being that whenever me and Sam watch something together I stick my feet in his face and he tickles them (sorry for those who really don't like feet) Even though I know it's something he doesn't particularly enjoy he still does it and he will even let me swap feet so they both get their equal shares of tickles. That really is love!

I' dedicating my time to looking out for the small things now because they really can make all the difference to how you view your day, week, year, life as a whole (Woah Beth getting deep there)

Putting my dressing gown on as soon as getting home. Getting to wear my sunglasses in the winter on those rare sunny days. Anytime I get to spend with friends, especially if it involves food and drink. When my favourite crisps are on offer. Orgasms - all of them (ok, stole this of Chloe, as well as the inspiration for this post but girl knows) Getting that cup of tea just right. Feeling good in an outfit.  Feeling the sun on my skin. Sam - every part of him. Catching up with my family. When a child wants me to sit next to them at snack time. The way my skin looks in the morning after a good pamper the night before.

I could go on forever and ever on all the little things I appreciate and it's so nice to actually right because it makes you realise that actually life is pretty great to be honest and I don't need big things to happen to live a happy life.
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Wednesday, 17 January 2018

Valentines Day Girls Night


 TEDDY: PRETTY LITTLE THING | GREY UNDERWEAR: BRA AND KNICKERS | RED VELVET UNDERWEAR: PRETTY LITTLE THING

So that time of year that people either loath or get all giddy for is nearly upon us. ok so we still have nearly a month or so but come on let's be honest we all have a little think about how we're going to spend it. Single or not I think it can really be a time to just get who ever you love together. Whether it be actually spending it with your other half or with friends or family or even just your pet dog. We all love someone and so why not spend this time to show them that extra love you all have stored away. (although don't worry I am a believer in showing someone you love them 365 days a year) I just like a reason to treat my nearest and dearest.

Usually Valentines day falls on the day of a football match and with sam being a season ticket holder for Brighton we know that means he cannot miss a game and I don't blame him. So I always turn to my girlfriends and the last few Valentines have been spent with them. Honestly it really is lovely to just get together have a girly natter and of course put those rom-coms on, wild child and the lucky one being favourites of mine.

Valentines day really doesn't have to be all of that mushiness that people see, what with the lacy underwear and the shaving and tanning and all of that. I don't have time for it. I want comfy underwear and a good slice of pizza so that's why for a night in I'd go for the sports style. A) you can't drop food down those kinds of bras that easily and B) they are just so damn comfortable! I mean can we just pause this whole valentines chat to talk about these two sets from Pretty Little Thing. Firstly, girls look no further, you know longer have to spend £40 on those Calvin Klein sets because Pretty Little Thing have created these gorgeous sets for a fraction of the price and also I kinda really love the fact that the side is just the elastic band and no material. I desperately want it in the Black and Charcoal too so keeping my eyes peeled for my size to come back in stock! Also, my velvet obsession is still growing strong. This time in the form of this gorgeous set. Look at the red colour! Talk about perfect for Valentines, the colour red but comfy, big tick in my box!

But if ultimate comfort isn't your style then I would also 100% opt for this gorgeous teddy. I mean we're all friends so what's a little see through teddy between girls. Plus I don't know about you guys but a teddy isn't just for the guys, or gals you want to 'impress' I feel so super pretty and cute in one and what better time of year to feel those and treat your self to a nice loungewear than the day full of love! 

So this year, expect me to be in my comfiest (or prettiest) underwear. My favourite girls by my side. A pizza, wine, candles, films and if the girls are lucky I may treat them to flowers because it's a good enough reason to treat someone you love! Then, I'll get to go home to Sam (let's hope his team win the game) and he get's treated to my pizza tummy (and probs pizza stained top) and I'll probably be a little tipsy and we're just have a good giggle while watching whatever we're currently binging on netflix together. Can you think of anything more perfect, I am already excited for Valentines day and I'm not even a big believer in the day, well I wasn't until now! Spread the love girlies (or guys) oh and don't forget to treat yourself at the same time too, because there is no better love then self love - in the form of new underwear!

How are you planning on spending your valentines? Do you even believe in the day?

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Sunday, 14 January 2018

My 2018 Reading List

Ever since I was little I have had a love for reading, I would ask for new books all the time and in any spare minute I got I would be found reading. Plenty of times I would have my mum shouting at me to hurry up because we would be leaving the house but I'd just have to finish the chapter I was on (I hate leaving any book half way through) I would consume anything and everything. When I was at primary school and we had our weekly visits to the library I would secretly be bursting inside with excitement at what I could find next (while trying to pretend not that interest like all my friends). But often like many, as I grew up my reading lessened and life got in the way. Last year I had to commute to London and Surrey for 9 months and so the reading went up and I'd be dying to finish my day at placement or university lesson just so I could get on that train and continue reading. But when I graduated my reading disappeared again. However, this year I plan to read a lot again. I want to make time to read at least a chapter a day. Ideally I'd love to read 12 books this year. Not a lot at all but very achievable. So I've put together a blog post on a few of the books I want to read during the first half of this year.

The Couple Next Door by Shari Lapena
First on my list is The Couple Next Door. Now I have heard so much about this book and thrillers are my absolute favourite to delve into, I get so sucked in with all the twists and turns. They really are gripping. This story is about a couple that go to a dinner party that the couple next door are hosting. The host as asked for the baby to be left behind, it's nothing personal she just can't stand when the baby cries. The husband persuades the wife it'll be fine as after all they only live next door and so with reluctance they head next door armed with the baby monitor and the promise they will take turns to check on the baby every half an hour. The baby was fine when checked on last, but as the couple race to the room their is a deathly silence and their worst fears have happened. The baby has gone. Will they ever find out what happened. I mean lets be honest we all have a feeling who the culprits might be, but with these kinds of stories their is always a massive twist and I can't wait to find out what it is!

My Not So Perfect Life by Sophia Kinsella
A complete polar opposite to the above, but I haven't read which is known as an 'easy' book in ages. That's not to say its worse than the other, an easy book is just one that makes you feel peaceful and it's all lighthearted. I love those as I feel you can just read and read and forget about the time. This tells the tale of a girl who lives in London, has a glamorous job and super cool instagram feed (sounds like the life many of us dream of) However, all is not as it seems and it talks about the behind the scenes of her instagram and how actually it's not so perfect. I feel it's going to be quite hilarious and something that all us instagrammers and bloggers should read as a little escape, I can't wait to have a giggle and probably a few "yes so relatable" moments.
The Northern Lights by Phillip Pullman
Yes, I know this is essential a children's book, as I know many read it at school and while I read a lot I never read this series. So now the time has finally come after my friend Agnes has mentioned a few times I thought I'd do it. It's about a girl who lives among scholars at a college in oxford and has a animal daemon (not sure what that is just yet) However she has a destiny that has awaited her since birth and now that her friend is missing she must travel to place full of witch clans, armoured bears and stolen children. Now this isn't really my thing now days, but I can imagine younger me would have enjoyed it as I very much into my action/adventure books so I'll just have to channel my inner childhood for this book as I am not one to read one in a series and I'll have 2 others to read after (not yet purchased)

GirlBoss by Sophia Amoruso
Now considering since the real birth of my blog in June (yes I know it shows I've blogged since 2013 I only ever really dabbled in it, but since really looking into it and diving into properly this year I state that June 2017 was really the start of me blogging) and so I've been all about trying to work hard and considering this book is all about a girl who dropped out of school and created the well known brand NastyGal I thought this would give me the big kick up the butt and inspire me through reading about her tales to work as hard as ever this year!
SweetBitter by Stephanie Danler
My sister I think read this while she was gallivanting in Australia last year and luckily bought it home with her. She mentioned that it is being turned into a tv series (so I know I have to read it). It's about a girl Tess who is 22, who has moved to New York and stumbles into a restaurant job we follow for a year as we see her experience the chaotic and privileged life of a back waiter, on and off duty. With two people alongside her, a young handsome bartender who she falls for and an older women who has murky, overpowering relationships with them both. We will see how these two relationships will be Tess's hardest lessons. It sounds like an interesting read and I can't wait to delve into it.

Get Your Sh*t Together by Sarah Knight
I've already her first book, The life Changing Magic Of Not Giving A F*ck and I loved it. I read it when I wasn't my happiest 2 years ago and it really put things into perspective and so when I saw this came out I knew I had to get it. Although I have seen a third is out called You Do You so I'm sure I'll be purchasing that too. But anyway, this book is for anyone who wants to do just as it says on the front cover. It talks about all the f*cks you should and need to help you leave your day job and travel the world and balancing work and fun which is all things we'd all love to do. It even helps you save money or get that get up and go to go to happy hour ever day if that's what you really want to do! I'm excited about this, as I am so up for taking my blog to the next level and I feel this will be quite eye opening.

The Fourteenth Letter by Claire Evans
I have never actually read a book set in history. But this intrigued me. Mainly because it's a thriller so I think I can over look the time difference. This book is set in 1881 and starts with Pheobe Standbury standing in front of all her guests who have attended her engagement party, she is ready to join her husbands family and the polite society. But as she takes her fianćes hand someone steps out with a knife and stabs her to death. During the chaos that ascends the killer turns to the fianće and mouths "I promised I'd save you" Enough to suck you in right!? I just need to know why and who! I love a good thriller.

The Secret
I have read this before when I was lucky to find a copy online, but I feel to fully digest it and actually understand how to use the concept it needs to be digested a good few times. I have so many things I want to achieve this year and I want to channel the secret big time. Some people may think it's crazy, I know Sam did when I first tried to explain it all to him but I'm all for it. For those that haven't heard it's basically this power that we all have but many do not know about it and it's called the secret. Now if we learn to use it correctly we can channel so much happiness to every aspect of our lives - including relationships, health, money, anything we desire. It shares stories of many men and women who have used this power to create their world and bring joy to many aspects of their life. It really is powerful and eye opening and I recommend anyone to read it.



So these are what I'm starting with. Let me know if any of these interested. If you have read any and what you thought (no spoilers though!) and if you have any recommendations to what I need to add to my list please let me know! I want to read as many books as possible this year!


Wednesday, 10 January 2018

Why I Used To Struggle To Wear Dresses In Winter

DRESS: TOBI | JUMPER: H&M | TRAINERS: CONVERSE | NECKLACE: STELLA & DOT

Last year I stopped wearing dresses during autumn/winter due to not liking how I styled them. I just felt frumpy and just not great in all honesty. However, after months and months of wearing jeans and trousers I've become a little tired of it. Although jeans are my one true love I am always looking how to add a little something to my outfits and so when this dress appeared on my doorstep it gave me the challenge of styling a dress for winter again.

Now usually I just go for no tights (when it comes to shooting an outfit) because lets be honest we know that the majority of the time when bloggers shoot outfits with bare legs in winter they 90% of the time either wear the outfit just to shoot it or have tights ready to throw on after the outfit snaps have been taken. However I've been intrigued in the sheer look of tights and thought because it'd be wise to actually keep my legs warm, even if it's just a little I should start trying to style with tights for once and do you know what, I don't hate it. 

I think because usually in autumn/winter I go for black dresses my outfits tend to all look really dark and mash together too much as I am a girl with little colour in her wardrobe. But because the tights are sheer and you can pretty much see my skin through them it breaks up all the black. Then we have the dress from Tobi which of course is black. Another thing that I struggle with is floral prints. I love them, but can't ever find one that I love love. However this one appealed to me, I think because the print isn't too ditsy, nor too big and also not too colour. It doesn't catch my eye straight away and that's what I like about it. It also has a lovely button up detail which I think is a nice added extra to the dress.

I also layered with a jumper as I'm all about layering, or learning to layer should I say in the winter. I think a great way to style a dress is by just throwing a jumper on as it instantly turns it into a skirt. Then if you get too hot just take it off and ta-da a whole new outfit is created.

Lastly, I chose to style it with white converse as I thought A) it would compliment the white in the dress and B) the outfit would be all dark which is one thing that put me off wearing dresses in the first place and I think it just adds something to the whole outfit. 

 Also I know this photo is an odd one out, but how could I not add it! I just loved the background and also we were attempting to get our first twin shot, because why would you not use the fact you're a twin to create content?!








Sunday, 7 January 2018

Styling A Crop Top For Winter

TOP: TOBI | TROUSERS: PULL & BEAR | SHORT NECKLACE: MISSOMA | LONGER NECKLACE: H&M OLD (similar)

Hello 2018! First proper outfit post of the year and it's a little different. I decided to try and have a little photo shoot indoors for once. I know that's what they all used to do back in the day (bloggers that is) But I thought I'd try a new and improved version of the indoor outfit post and what a better outfit to do it with than this one. It's both comfy and casual but can totally be dressed up for going out.

Starting with the top, isn't it gorgeous? I was searching Tobi The colour is just so lovely and I have a slight thing for velvet at the moment so what better way to carry it on than with this. Velvet isn't just for christmas you know. The cross over detail is just gorgeous too and really adds to the top. I also feel you could wear it off the shoulder just to add a little added 'sexy vibe' to it so it really is such a good top to style.

I paired the top with my trusty pinstripe trousers. I purchased these ages ago with my mum and seriously debated them as I was so worried about the change, I've always worn jeans and I was completely worried what people would think of them. But my mum persuaded me to do it, which really surprised me as I thought she would be one of the people that was a big no no about them. But as soon as this top arrived I just knew they would work so well with the top. They sit high enough and the darkness really brings out the blush colour. Plus not to mention but because of the two contrasts, i.e dressy top and laidback trousers I would totally style this with heels if I were going out as I feel it would really make the outfit or with hi-top converse if I wanted to dress it down and just go out for dinner or something. It really is so versatile.




Monday, 1 January 2018

Reflecting on 2017 and Goals for 2018

ROLL NECK: H&M | JEANS: URBAN OUTFITTERS | BOOTS: OFFICE | SUNGLASSES: RAYBAN | NECKLACE: ASOS | BAG: A FRIENDS

Happy New Year! Did you all have a good evening? How many of you are nursing hangovers? Hopefully this post will be a good read while you're nursing it. Although be warned it could be a big post so grab whatever it is that is your hangover cure and settle down.

2017, oh 2017. In all honesty I don't know where to start with you. I don't even know how I really felt about you to be honest. In some ways it hasn't been that eventful but then in other ways it has.

 The start of 2017 saw me enter my last placement for my teaching degree and the start of a very very hard 3 months for me. I experienced a lot of anxiety and sadness during those 3 months due to not getting on with the school and due to this I decided not to pursue teaching any time soon. There were quite a few times when I wanted to drop out of the degree altogether due to the placement but luckily I had family, friends and my boyfriend really help me through those months and if it wasn't for them I don't think I'd have my degree. I am so glad I did push through though as in July I graduated with a 2:1, something I thought I'd never do as I have always doubted my educational ability and actually thought I'd be lucky if I finished with a 3rd in all honesty, so you can imagine my delight when this was the result and now if I ever do want to pursue teaching again then I can.

2017 also saw me really push my blog and actually for the first time create content regularly and I've realised 2 things, how much I enjoy it, but also how hard the work actually is and to appreciate those that do it full time as it is a lot of work. But I remind myself that while I enjoy it to just immerse  myself. Through blogging I have grown a gorgeous audience, I appreciate every one who has decided to follow and engage with me, it's because of all of you and those on instagram that I continue to create and enjoy the whole process. I have also met some very lovely girls through blogging and have even met them a few times and shot content together which has been so much fun. Also I feel because I've been working hard on the style side of my content it really has increased my sense of style. I now have a style which I absolutely adore and find waking up and getting dress a lot easier which is something that is really nice. I have also worked with a few brands which I am so grateful for as it's not something I really dreamed of doing so it's so lovely to be recognised and for brands to want to work with me.

I also started my journey into the real adult world. Although I said I no longer am pursuing teaching at the moment I am however still working within a school. I am currently a teaching assistant and I am enjoying it a lot. I am lucky in the fact also that the school have allowed me to still teach a little as my afternoons are spent taking groups of children out of class and teaching them and I also have a small group every morning that I teach and it is amazing. I get to do what I love still but on a smaller scale and without as much pressure. Also due to this I am still able to carry on blogging regularly so it really is the perfect balance for me.

Lastly another highlight for me is that I finally learnt to surf. I have been wanting to learn ever since I was little and when I used to take trips to Newquay the closest I ever got was when my dad would take me out on his surfboard and let me kneel as he pushed it onto a wave as it went to shore. But this year Sam and I drove back to Newquay, a childhood holiday destination for us both and took up proper surf lessons and with some persistence I managed to stand up a fair few times and we were constantly in the water practicing as much a possible. So that's finally one thing off the bucket list which I am so proud of.

That would have to be the highlights of my 2017 and now onto the goals I hope to achieve this year.. 
2018 goals

Lifestyle/Health: 

Drink more water: I think this is on my goals list every year but in all honesty my water intake is awful.  I'll finish work and most days I'll have had only one bottle of water and sometimes I wouldn't have even finished a bottle. So that needs to change.

Stop picking my nails: This has been a goal since I was little. I have picked them as long as I can remember and it's gross. I envy girls with nails who can paint them and they look nice in photos. Most of the time I hide mine because they're so gross.

Get more active: Now I'm not saying I'm going to go and join a gym because I'm not about that kind of commitment, but Sam's parents go to the gym 3 times a week so that would be a perfect time for me to take over the lounge and do a HIIT workout using youtube or some yoga and that I feel would do me for now. I would like to swim at least every week as I did actually buy a swimsuit to do this and never actually followed it through because I'm quite bad in the fact that I wouldn't be able to go by myself so I have to find some other unfortunate soul to come with me.

Mediate/Self-Love: One thing I really want to learn this year is meditation. I think it would be really good for my over-thinking/worrying/sadness. I go through phases of all three quite badly and it can effect my relationships with those around me. So I want to learn to be more at peace in a sense and I always hear how good meditation is and so I want to find a good program and follow it. Just to see how it makes me feel. Along side that I think comes self love, I truly believe in the saying - how can you expect anyone to love you if you don't love yourself. This really resonates with me I need to learn to take more alone time as I think that really helps me - alone time doesn't include lying in bed while sam is on his xbox, I mean actual time where it is just me. It could be reading, blogging, just having a shower, watching something I want to. Anything I need to have time just for me where I can re-energise. I also think I need to start keeping a diary so I'm aware of how I am feeling and also try to think of at least 3 things I am grateful for or happy about everyday. 

Save:  Due to finally having my first proper job I have decided I want to start saving for a house. I have always been against renting as I really want to get on the property ladder. Sam and I are fortunate in that both our parents are fine with us living at home until we do this. So this year we are planning on saving to start buying a house, granted this could and probably will still take us at least 5 years but every year I want to be able to see a healthy growth so that one day the dream of owning our own home together can come true.

Make friends: Bit of a blunt one this is. But in all honesty as I mentioned in this post I don't really have many friends and it really brings me down a lot. But this year I'd like to see me make more friends. I am only 23 and want to start living like one. I want to start going out (doesn't have to be drinking) and just having amazing times and making memories that I can tell the grandkids about one day. Another big thing I would like is for Sam and I to have a friendship group that we can both go out with and equally be friends with everyone and make memories altogether. That is a big thing missing in mine and Sam's relationship, is a friendship group. I think we are both yearning to have a group of people that we can go out with together and have some crazy memories together but with other people as well.

Travel:

A short but sweet section. Because as I just mentioned I am starting to save to move out one day, travelling is on the back burner. Although it still feels like a little ember burning inside me that I know I have to do. That is why I want to ensure I do a few weekend breaks at least this year. Last year we only went to Cornwall. This year I'd like to venture a little further afield and also I want to create travel content as that has also been something I've wanted to do. 

Blogging:

Audience Growth: 2017 saw me really push myself to blog and the results I have got while probably not amazing to many have really been something I'm thrilled with. Within 6 months I grew by 700 followers and to say I was gobsmacked would be an understatement. I am so grateful that so many people enjoy my content and I appreciate every single follower. But I want to continue to grow and by the end of 2018 I'd love to have 2000-2500 followers on instagram, I think that would be truly amazing. Even getting to 200 followers on this little corner of the internet would be insane, I love my little blog and I'd love to see more lovely faces hopefully enjoying my content to.

Content Change: While I enjoy what I am creating at the moment I would love to develop it further. I'd love to create more of a candid feel and tell a story through my photos rather than just standing in front of pretty places all time, even though I'll still do that I want to leave that behind this year. I want to begin to create content similar to Isabella Thorsden, Beth Sandland, Sinead Crowe, Fifi Newbery, Zoelaz, Saasha Burns are just to name a few girls who I aspire to blog like one day and plan to change my look through their influence as the year goes on. 

Meet Blogging Friends: Like the friendship goal above, I was fortunate to meet a lovely group of bloggers this year, but I'd love to expand the blogging friendship circle, I have spoken to some amazingly lovely girls this year such as Lauren, Beth, Jess, Alex and a little bit to Maria and I would love to grow a friendship more with these girls and others. I think that's the wonder of blogging is you can create friendships with other like minded gorgeous girls and their's not judging as we all get it.

Work with Brands: I was extremely lucky to have brands notice my work this year and I got to work with some lovely people because of this. This year however I would love to work with more brands and create content alongside them as I just find it so exciting and I also find that it can actually inspire me to create content in different ways.

There you have it! The longest post I think I have ever written! Did you get to the end? Let's see if in a year's time I have managed to achieve any of these. 

After reading my 2017 goals post I actually noticed I'd been able to cross of a few and it's a lovely feeling! 

What are some goals you have this year?
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