Wednesday, 9 August 2017

Honest to Blog: Friendship

Tricky one to write this post. It's something I struggle and get down about often. When I was in primary and secondary school I always had a big group of friends, most of which were boys I just seemed to always click with them more. But in a way that's now come back to haunt me or may be I've never actually been good at making friends? I guess what I'm trying to say in this honest to blog post is that friendships are hard for me.

I want that friendship where you wine and dine over conversation full of laughter or even deep thoughts. I want the friendship where you always have that person to text and you have inside jokes or where you take weekend breaks away with your small girl gang creating memories for a life time that you can share with your own children when one day you go on play dates and things as you grow older.

I want that feeling where after each encounter you feel so happy and content and it pushes that loneliness from us all that will not waver until the next meeting. I want to be that person that friends know they can come to 24/7 if they want to because I'd be there for them to talk to and for me to listen and talk back when it's needed.
After leaving school settings, whether that be primary school, secondary school, college or university where we are pretty much thrown together with others and make friends because what else is there to do when we see them 5 days a week for hours. School is how we make friends and where we create our memories with those friends and we have people we can turn to when we feel stressed or sad and  those are the people  that we speak to all the time and go shopping with and have those fabulous school sleepovers it's easy making friends at school. I have had some fabulous friendships and always have such nostalgia when I come across old photos and things.

But sadly the majority of those friendships for me bar a few have dwindled, never for bad reasons but the norm that happens for most people. We grow up. We grow up and we create new lives, we get jobs, we go to university, we start families and become adults and with that I've experienced lots of friend losses. This is probably a main reason of me feeling so down. I crave what I wrote above. I don't really know what I'm trying to say in this post to be honest. It's a big brain dump on how I miss having close friends to make memories and talk to and gossip with pretty much 24/7.

I also do not have an clue on how to make friends now days. I try to use social media to talk to people but at the moment it's not clicking, I guess it takes a little longer to click especially through the internet but yeah I guess in a way this is a reach out in asking people what they do to makes friends. I have so many wonderful people in my life, I just really want a few more close friendships and to create memories that will last a life time! (That's so my poor bestie doesn't get bombarded with me asking her to do everything and anything with me - although I know she loves it)

I feel it's going to get to a point where people start making friends online, kinda like tinder, but less creepy and weird so if anyone wants to chat and make friends honestly feel free to message me, I don't bite and it would be lovely to talk to more like minded people that enjoy blogging or going on adventures or coffee dates and all sorts!
I'm so tired of feeling lonely and not having a group of girls that I can chat to and things, lets use all our kindness and platforms to create friendships and memories!

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Elizabeth Apps x

12 comments :

  1. Making friends as you get older is so tough! I'm going to message you on Insta about something <3 xx

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    1. It really is and thank you again so much for the message on insta! xx

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  2. I completely agree, it's so hard to make friends when you get past the uni/school age!! �� I guess it's hard to get used to the change xxx

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    1. It really is so hard, it's quite a shock and i know it's so hard to get used to! xxx

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  3. This really spoke to me - I feel the same. I'm quite introverted and generally prefer male company, which often makes it tricky for me to form meaningful connections with women. I do crave it, though. As for adventures, yes please. :) You can find me via the usual annoying social media channels if you fancy getting coffee. (Well, tea. Coffee is the devil's work.) @CharleeSays on Twitter, Charlee Bucket on FB. x

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    1. I'm glad it did lovely and yeah it can be very tricky! and I will definitely hit you up and speak to you! x

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  4. I think the older you get the harder it is to make friends, I just graduated from university and I can't think of how on Earth one can ever make any friends in real life, it's so daunting and scary! x

    Ariadna || RAWR BOWS

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    1. I know right that's whats happened to me! My friends I made at uni have all moved and we don't chat as much! and now I have no clue how to make friends! x

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  5. I cannot thank you enough for this post, as i could relate to so much of it. I had to interrupt my university studies for health reasons a year ago, and as a consequence lost contact with pretty much everyone i met there! Part of it was me, but it forced me to realise that many of those 'friendships' weren't real - the people who truly matter will stick by you, especially when you're going through a hard time.

    I'm so sorry for you that you've felt this loneliness, as i have, but i hope it can be some comfort to know you're not alone? And for what it's worth, reading your blog makes ME feel less alone. So never be afraid to pop along, whether on twitter or through blogs, and chat away - i love a good ramble! You seem like such a lovely girl and deserve TRUE friendship. It will come. Keep being wonderful YOU xxx

    Bumble and Be

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    1. I am so sorry to hear your story lovely and I hope your health has improved now, I love how you view it as those friendships clearly weren't real
      It definitely helps to know it's not just me and it is so so so nice to hear that reading my blog made you feel less alone! Your words are so kind, thank you lovely xx

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  6. I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling lonely! It's hard to make friends, but I'm sure you'll be able to do it! Loved the post.

    Have an awesome day!
    xx Kris

    https://dreamingofpink.wordpress.com

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  7. It is so hard making friends when you get older, I always was friends with the boys at school and I found it hard to maintain female friendships as i was a tomboy. Saying that I would rather have no friends then fake ones as it has taken me a long time to realise that and now I have about 3 really close friends. We should definitely meet up soon though babe I don't want you feeling lonely hun! xx

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