Sunday, 23 September 2018

24 Things I Learnt By 24

Today I turn 24 and to say I'm not shitting myself at the fact I'm a year a way from 25 which means a year away from being closer to 30 than I am 20 is absolutely terrifying. But currently I am in London and London Fashion Week Festival with my mum, aunt and twin, hopefully having one too many glasses of prosecco or gin's and forgetting that I have to get up and go to work tomorrow. But on the run up I have had a little reflection on the things I have learnt in my 24 years.
1. It's ok not to have everything together at this age - house, proper career, family and all sorts included.
2. Always carry lip balm, chewing gum, spare sanitary, house keys and hand cream.
3. Not everyone is going to like you and you're not going to like everyone - that doesn't make you a shitty person.
4. Who cares if people see you are listening to mamma mia and disney classics on your spotify.
5. It's ok not to have a girl best friend to text every day, even if some days it makes you feel down.
6. You are never too old to start pursuing what you want to do, whether its just a passion or a career you desire.
7. It's ok to be 'boring' and prefer sitting at home in your dressing gown and a good film/book.
8. ALWAYS have pants just for periods
9. It's ok to stop seeing people and stop being friends with people if they don't make you happy.
10. Wash your bed sheets every week, nothing like clean bedding.
11. No matter what kind of mood you're in, always be polite to others.
12. If you're feeling angry or upset, go for a walk before making any decisions, fresh air does you a world of good.
13. meditation and yoga are so good for your body and soul, do more of it.
14. Eat that chocolate, packet of crips, sweets, takeaways - life is too short to disallow yourself the good stuff.
15. But remember all in moderation, you don't want to feel sick.
16. Focus on you, you cant compare your chapter 1 to somebodies chapter 5, 10, 20..
17. It's ok to cry, have your times of feeling down but don't let them consume you.
18. If you're going to congratulate and celebrate peoples achievements/steps forward in life , mean it.
19. After drinking too much alcohol take two paracetamol and a whole glass of water, thank yourself in the morning.
20. Never settle for less than you deserve, asking for what you want should never be asking for too much.
21. If you're tired, sleep. It doesn't matter if you need to nap at midday, 3pm, 5pm or even be in bed by 7pm. Your body needs rest.
22. Learn to appreciate and feel gratitude for the small things, a kiss in the morning, the cup of tea, a bus being on time - the more you appreciate things in life the more good will come to you.
23. Wear what you want and don't worry what others think, if you feel BOMB you definitely look it.
24. Drink at least 2 litres a day, the difference in your skin and health is amazing.

*blog post idea from beth sandland

Sunday, 16 September 2018

Ways To Bring Positivity Into Your Life

Life can sometimes get confusing. Sometimes we find ourselves at crossroads not knowing which way to go and it can be all so overwhelming and we start to panic about what we're going to do and how we're going to create these kickass lives - especially in our 20's when we have been told from  young ages that this is when we need to get our shit together and that in our twenties we should have found another person to spend our life with, be engaged or married with them, be in a successful career for x amount of years, have children and have a house. Achievable? WRONG! Nowadays it's harder than when grannie and granpa were our ages and so we feel like we are failures. I'm not by any means saying that if you do all of these tips you will get the things stated above. It's merely to help you in those times of disarray to remember that life isn't scary and we will all reach those milestones we want to reach if we keep working and keep ourself positive in any way that we can whether you pick 2 or 1 of these ideas, apply it and run with it.
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 Take Time To Rest (and don't feel guilty)
Probably the most important one for me. I am someone that can burn out quite easily, I get easily overwhelmed if I have lots planned in my week and so I always need a day or a long evening (meaning when I finish work at 3:30pm) and then I'm fine. These rests for me mean I don't do much, I binge Netflix, write a blog post or two, watch youtube, read, pamper. You name it. Anything that is 'me time' is what you should be doing in this time. But most importantly not to feel guilty about it. Because when you feel guilt you don't relax properly and then you can be left feeling a little tetchy.

Say Yes To The Things That Bring You Joy And No To Those That Don't
This can be a hard one. I'm someone that will always do things for people otherwise I feel really bad and guilty for it. I like to put everyone's needs before mine, it's just me. I will always go out of my way to help those that I love. But sometimes it's ok to say No, because sometimes you just need to look after yourself, after all if you haven't looked after yourself how are you supposed to look after others. Similarly, though it is important to say yes to opportunities, because if you think it's going to be something that will bring you great joy. Do it! Don't worry about any consequences or money, just do it because it could just be amazing.
 Be Grateful For The Things In Your Life 
One thing I really try to do is write down things I'm grateful for. They can be really simple, like I'm grateful for my morning tea. I'm grateful for my bus being on time. I am grateful for such and such doing this for me. Absolutely anything. I try to write or simply think of 3-5 things daily. Because I believe as soon as you show gratitude more gratitude will come your way. But it's really about noticing those small things in your life and even the big things no matter how bad a day you may be having.

Notice The Things You Like About Yourself
Similarly to the grateful idea. I think everyone needs to love themselves, if you can't love yourself how can you expect somebody else to love you right? It's the MOST important thing we should all learn, alongside the whole learning to enjoy our own company. One way that I practice self love and something that could help make you instantly smile is just by saying or writing down 1 thing you like about yourself daily. It could be that you like your outfit that day or that you like your smile or hair, or even that you like how caring you are towards others. Again it doesn't have to be major but that one thing about yourself could really help perk you up.

Learn To Live In The Moment
Easier said than done. But how liberating is it to just live in the moment. Who cares about that thing that is happening tomorrow or next week or next year. Who cares about that house you are trying to hard to save for. Live in the moment, drink it up and take it all in because you blink and that moment is gone, not to be redone. Enjoy the time with friends and family or time by yourself and don't stress about tomorrow. Everything will fall into place, it may not be exactly what you had planned but it will be ok just enjoy the here and now.
Don't Be Afraid Do Things Because Of The Fear
In our twenties it's our prime years to do everything and anything, try all those jobs even if it doesn't sound right up your street try it anyway. Just don't say no because you're worried of failing or not achieving what you want to do because if you say no, well you will do the things you fear. You can only accomplish things if you go at them with full force and not worrying about what could happen, because what if what could happen is the exactly what you actually want and it happened all because you didn't care about the fear.

Sing And Dance
Exactly what it says in bold. Do you feel a little sad, get up put your jams on and pretend you are giving a concert, sing and dance your heart out to all of those songs you love. Dance until you can barely stand, feel better yet? Good.

These are a few things that I try to do. Especially with the change of the seasons, it can be a hard one for many. So try to remember simple and small ways to bring some positivity to our lives.

Wednesday, 15 August 2018

Can Life Get Boring Or Can You Just Get Boring?

At the age of 23 I am constantly questioning what I get up to in my life. I wouldn't say I have the most riveting life. I don't go clubbing, even though that by no means makes me boring it's just something I don't particularly enjoy. But it's things like this that get me thinking that I am not living my 20's the best of my ability.                                     


Ok, so let's run through a normal day to day in the life of Beth.
6:45 am: wake up, have breakfast and get back into bed with youtube.
8:15 am: leave for work
8:30am-6:00pm: work
6:00pm-11 ish - dinner, shower, maybe workout, sit on my laptop or watch a tv series.

With Saturday and Sunday varying but mostly with shooting outfits (which I love) but again mostly sitting around at home on my laptop or watching tv, perhaps visit my family and the occasional (a lot more often in the last year) meet friends for coffee, food and a good gossip.

It's boring or am I boring?!

According to Sam every 2 months - his words. I get upset and down in the dumps because I feel like nothing exciting is happening in my life and I'm going to look back even when I hit just my 30's and think was that it? Is that all I did? That terrifies me. The thought of it actually makes me feel slightly sick.
 Ever since I was little I've known I wanted to do lots wth my life. 6 months being a surfing beach bum in Hawaii anyone? Yes I know that's a little extravagant. But still I want to see lots of the world. Even England, I've only seen Newquay, Edinburgh and London. I just want to have these crazy memories that I can look back on and think. Fuck yeah, look what I did! I can tell my kids about all the things I did. I can tell their grandchildren!

But yeah here I am sitting in my bedroom most days doing what? Nothing. I blame work, I blame having to work and earn money and save for a house and I blame the fact that Sam likes to sit on his xbox and do you know what, that's just stupid.

It's no ones fault, it's definitely not Sam's fault. The only person that can get their arse into gear and instead of sitting around start doing this, is me.  Life isn't boring. It's only as boring as you make it.

Yes we have things like work that we have to get through and sometimes after work we're so knackered we just need to curl under a blanket and nap. But I'm 23 for peak sake I have all the time in the world to sleep (need to get the fatigued feeling under control) I should be doing things with my time and having funny stories I can share with my blog and just look back on what I did feeling super happy and fulfilled.
 Because that's the thing isn't it. We all want a fulfilling life. I want those days or evenings of little things, bowling, mini golf, walks ANYWHERE, cinema, drinks and getting tipsy (not clubbing), games nights, weekends away, weeks away, trying out new sports. Honestly I could probably write a huge lists of things I want to do.

But really, my mood isn't going to improve until I start doing them and the only person that is going to be able to get this stuff to happen. Well me of course. I need to ask people to do these things with me I need to book these weekends or weeks away. I just need to do as much as possible. At weekends, in the evenings whenever I am able as much as I can.

Life isn't boring, it's as boring as you make it and I am through with being boring.

Don't get me wrong I still want days where I stay in pyjamas and I only change when it's a shower in the evening but change into new pyjamas kinda day. Because they are pretty great. But if I want to do something instead of being like 'oh, that would be nice if one day we did..' and just say, can we do this, on this day or yada yada' you get the idea.

Because let's be honest the quote "You will never have this day again so make it count" has never been truer!